Advice is a funny thing. It can shape your actions and improve your life, or it can damage the situation significantly, causing worse issues than you can imagine. Now, in almost every post I’ve written, I’ve given my opinions on many matters and advised towards certain behaviour and actions and advised against others, and so it only makes sense to add a bit of perspective to it all.
Everyone’s received advice from a variety of different people, people you know, people you admire and everyone else. You get advice from famous people and “influencers”, whom you’ve never met, and many people take that advice as absolute gold. The advice I take tend to come from successful entrepreneurs, and the people I know have the experiences to apply to my circumstances, however I use one tool to make sure every piece of advice I take improves my life instead of damaging it.
The way to do it is personalise any advice. By that, I mean forming your own opinions based on the advice you get from others, and personalising it to your own situation. People can be empathetic, but they will never understand your circumstances as well as you do. I see so many people taking advice like it’s word of law. When it goes wrong, it’s another thing to complain about, and another person to blame. By personalising it to your situation, you can take those parts of the advice that suit your needs, and discount those parts that could cause damage.
Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying you shouldn’t take advice. Advice is one of the best things that other people can offer you. It can help to give an outside perspective on your situation and widen your viewpoint when you’ve backed yourself into a corner. It’s hugely helpful, but as long as you adapt it to your situation. Take as much advice as possible, but make sure you are clever with it, as sometimes it can bite you in the ass.
“Sometimes an outside perspective is the clearer perspective.”Shannon A. Thompson
I’ll give an example. I’m a big fan of Gary Vaynerchuk. He’s successful, driven and tends to know what he’s talking about. His ideology, and advice for those in college/university, is that you need to use all your time available to you while it’s available to hit your goals. For me, I prefer to do my work in shorter bursts, when I can focus wholly on something and do it to a high quality, and then stop and move onto something else. I also adapt it to fit in my own wellness, so that I never burnout from working too hard yet still put as much energy as I can into my work. This adaptation of the advice has helped me massively, even though I didn’t take it directly from the horse’s mouth.
Too many people in this day and age take everything said to them at face value, with no ability to adapt and bend advice to suit their situations. Not only that, they complain and blame others for their inability to do so. Our blame culture based society keeps pushing to the forefront when things go wrong, however if people could take advice with a pinch of salt, personalise it and then use it to their advantage, maybe things would be different.
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